By Dr. Cicely Woodard
Co-Author of Keeping the Stars Aligned: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Raising Morale in Relationships (2014)
When Ron and I first met in 2001, he was a teacher, and I was in graduate school studying mathematics education. I was on the road to becoming a teacher as well. We connected and talked so much about education and what it meant to lead classrooms effectively.
Now, after over twenty-one years of marriage and all that time spent in very successful careers in education for both of us, we still frequently talk about education. However, those discussions have grown from casual conversations to significant, tangible support and partnership. Since then, Ron has moved into school principalship and district administration while I have continued to teach. We understand each other’s jobs on a deep level, and we easily find ways to support each other in our careers, parenthood, hobbies, ministry, and everyday life.
Together, we are purpose partners who show up for each other in meaningful ways. Being purpose partners does not mean that two people have to work in the same field. Yet, purpose partners in marriage do exhibit some key characteristics. Try the following if you want to develop a purposeful partnership with your spouse.
Create a common vision or goal. Determine what you want to work toward together as a couple, and lean on each other’s strengths. Recognize each other’s unique gifts, and use those to reach your shared goal. Recognize each other’s unique gifts and use those to reach the goal.
Encourage growth and mobility. Individuals will grow and change in marriage. Look for ways to call out and support that growth in your Spouse.
Show up for each other. Be present, listen, and offer advice when your spouse talks about a new adventure. Determine ways that you can help, and follow through on tasks. Be there in big and small ways.
Be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader. Really believe in your spouse and communicate that belief and encouragement. Constantly remind them of their worth and potential, and be a positive voice when they are doubtful.
Let’s continue to develop marriages that are purposeful partnerships full of lasting love, strong support, and shared growth toward a common goal.
