Are you committed to continual improvement? Would you like to accelerate your career and jumpstart your personal growth? Unleash your potential by finding the right mentor for you!
What is a mentor?
Humans hold a unique gift and a special power. Language allows them to share knowledge across time, allowing each generation to build from past success. Using this gift to its fullest, experienced individuals have built a powerful legacy of mentoring by sharing knowledge at a personal level.
But mentors do much more than train others in a skill. They serve as a trusted beacon, bestowing wisdom and insight as well as trade secrets. They foster both personal and professional growth, acting as sounding boards for their mentees’ questions and thoughts. Being a mentor also means offering purposeful criticism and new perspectives in a safe environment. Ultimately, the goal is to empower mentees to reach their full potential, whether mastering a new skill, achieving career goals or navigating life’s complexities.
9 types of mentors
Mentors can help you achieve your goals in nearly any area of life. Given this broad palette of support, we’ve provided a list of nine types of mentors to help you choose the right one for you. While coaches and mentors are different, we’ve included some coaching types as well.
- Career mentor: Career mentors guide your professional growth by helping you navigate career paths and grow your business network while assisting in your skills development.
- Peer mentor: This is someone who shares a similar position in life or career as you do, allowing for mutual learning and development while fostering accountability.
- Reverse mentor: Younger or less advanced in their career than you are, reverse mentors provide fresh perspectives on industry trends, new technologies and communication styles.
- Team mentor: These advisers serve a similar role as career mentors but do so by advising your entire team while building a sense of community.
- Flash mentor: Rather than building a lasting relationship, flash mentors help you by assisting you with a project or in learning a new skill with concise one-time or regular visits.
- Virtual mentor: Virtual mentors provide traditional mentorship relations through a digital space, allowing for professional services without geographic constraints.
- Life coach: Rather than focusing on skill or development exclusively, a life coach offers tools and strategies to help you navigate all of life’s challenges for greater well-being.
- Executive coach: Serving executive teams and high-potential employees, executive coaches offer guidance critical to success in leadership roles.
- Parasocial mentor: These are public personalities, historical figures or even fictional characters who offer guidance and inspiration by means of your own self-directed learning.
How to find a good mentor
Finding a good mentor can jumpstart your career and even change your life. As such, it’s not something to take lightly. That’s not to say that finding your ideal mentor has to be difficult. Rather, it takes careful planning.
Chart your course
Finding a good mentor starts with introspection. Identify your goals and the qualities you seek in a guide. Then, look within your existing network of colleagues, professors or even peers such as fellow alumni. Professional organizations and trusted online platforms such as SUCCESS Coaching can also connect you with professional mentors and coaches. Remember, the perfect fit might not appear instantly. Be patient, proactive and clear in your goals.
Initiate a connection
Once you’ve identified possible mentors, reach out thoughtfully by briefly introducing yourself. Highlight your goals and express your interest in learning from their experience. Not everyone has the time you require and not every interaction guarantees success. Still, you may be surprised at how many people are honored and eager to help. By showcasing your initiative and genuine interest, you’ll pave the way for a great mentor–mentee relationship.
A good mentor will hold you accountable
A good mentor serves as your guide. That is, they help you stay on track by taking a genuine interest in you and your goals. Here are some top qualities to look for:
- Holds you accountable: Sets clear expectations, provides regular feedback and challenges you to reach your goals.
- Believes in your potential: Encourages you, celebrates your successes and expresses confidence in your abilities.
- Offers new and diverse perspectives: Shares their own experiences and insights while encouraging you to consider multiple viewpoints.
- Actively listens: Creates a safe space for open communication while asking thoughtful questions and providing constructive feedback.
- Displays patience and understanding: Recognizes that growth takes time, offering support and guidance on your journey.
Red flag: Beware of self-serving mentors
Ultimately, mentorship is about building a relationship. As with any relationship, that requires mutual trust and confidence. Beware of these red flags and be prepared to restate necessary boundaries or even end the relationship:
- Lack of interest in your growth: They don’t ask questions about your goals and progress or neglect to offer challenges.
- Poor listener: They dominate conversations, fail to ask questions or don’t take your individual goals into account.
- Passing their busy work to you: While a good mentor offers challenges that may require your assistance, beware of those seeking to use you as an unpaid intern.
- Unreliable and cancels often: Avoid someone who exhibits a lack of respect for your time and commitment.
- Overly critical without encouragement: A good mentor offers criticism in a safe space to help you grow while acknowledging your achievements.
How to get the most out of a mentor relationship
A great mentorship can be transformative to your career and in your life. But as with any relationship, you can’t simply be a taker. What you get out of it often depends on what you put into it.
Be a champion mentee
Actively engage in sessions, come prepared with questions and progress updates and express genuine interest in your mentor’s insights. Be proactive in soliciting feedback. Rather than reacting negatively to criticism, demonstrate a passion for learning and growing. Likewise, express gratitude. Show respect and enthusiasm to help ensure a rewarding relationship for both your mentor and you.
Respect boundaries
Healthy boundaries are vital in any mentor–mentee relationship. Be mindful of your mentor’s time and availability. Avoid bombarding them with constant requests or expectations of immediate responses. Communicate only through agreed upon channels to show respect for personal boundaries and privacy. In doing so, you will help foster a healthy foundation of trust for a mentorship experience that enriches both your lives.
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Bryan enjoys the digital space where arts and technology meet. As a writer, he has worked in education, health and wellbeing, and manufacturing. He also assists smaller businesses in web development including accessibility and content development. In his free time, he hikes trails in central Florida.
